The Lost Art of Listening

This post from Scott Galloway is a year and a half old, but it’s worth flagging (again, perhaps). My favorite excerpt:

Add this to the list of ways social media is ruining society: It’s skewing our perception of the relative value of listening vs. speaking. Social media is a contact sport in which “takes” are the game ball. It’s taught us (incorrectly) that all our opinions matter. Worse, that everyone needs to hear and comment on them. 

He’s spot-on. You don’t get any sort of clout (or Klout, back in the day) for just reading something and not weighing in.

The delta between hearing and listening is attention, being present. This is difficult in the age of devices, but respect is what makes the other party feel heard. 

Scott offers four tips for lending someone our ears.

Not speaking up is easier said (unsaid?) than done. It takes practice. But the payoff for fewer words is more empathy.

“You gotta learn to listen, listen to learn…”

Hope. Belief.

This was published in 1991. Seems appropriate for our times.

THE CURE OF TROY – by Seamus Heaney

Human beings suffer,
they torture one another,
they get hurt and get hard.
No poem or play or song
can fully right a wrong
inflicted or endured.

The innocent in gaols
beat on their bars together.
A hunger-striker’s father
stands in the graveyard dumb.
The police widow in veils
faints at the funeral home.

History says, Don’t hope
on this side of the grave.
But then, once in a lifetime
the longed for tidal wave
of justice can rise up,
and hope and history rhyme.

So hope for a great sea-change
on the far side of revenge.
Believe that a further shore
is reachable from here.
Believe in miracles
and cures and healing wells.

Call the miracle self-healing:
The utter self-revealing
double-take of feeling.
If there’s fire on the mountain
Or lightning and storm
And a god speaks from the sky

That means someone is hearing
the outcry and the birth-cry
of new life at its term.

It means once in a lifetime
That justice can rise up
And hope and history rhyme.

We could use some rhyme time right about now.

But then, once in a lifetime
the longed for tidal wave
of justice can rise up,
and hope and history rhyme.
So hope for a great sea-change
on the far side of revenge.
Believe that a further shore
is reachable from here.
Believe in miracles
and cures and healing wells.

I do believe that a further shore is reachable from here. Especially if we all join hands.


Hearing Seamus read his poem is like music. And here’s a bit more musical hope:

That nothing grows on, but time still goes on
Through each laugh of misery

Everybody’s gotta hold on hope
It’s the last thing that’s holding me

“Hold On Hope” by Guided by Voices

Crazy authors aren’t so crazy after all

Feeling “stuck” in your job (or your life)? Maybe you need some advice from this guy:

Ralph Steadman’s drawing of Hunter S. Thompson’s car beset by huge bats illustrated Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas in 1971.

Yes, noted “gonzo journalist” Hunter S. Thompson would like a word with you:

You have the power to change things up. But don’t just take it from Hunter S. Thompson. Pull up a barstool and listen to this fella:

That’s noted Barfly Charles Bukowski, America’s most infamous poet and a “laureate of American lowlife” (Time, 1986). Here’s what he has to say about making your own breaks:

Just a couple of friendly reminders that life doesn’t happen TO you unless you let it. And if it seems crazy to make a change, then embrace the crazy.

[Both quotes above came onto my radar via James Clear’s excellent 3-2-1 weekly email. If you’re not already on the list, you have the power to change that. 🙂 ]

Meet the new king… much worse than the old King

This pretty much sums it up:

The clip above is from Jeff Tiedrich’s Substack post yesterday. Well worth a follow, IMHO.

Also worth noting that cartoonist Ann Telnaes recently quit her job at the Washington Post when this cartoon was killed:

[L to R: Jeff Bezos/Washington Post owner, Sam Altman/AI CEO, Mark Zuckerberg/Facebook & Meta founder and CEO, Patrick Soon-Shiong/LA Times publisher, and the Walt Disney Company/ABC News.]

Here’s Dave Chappelle’s plea at the end of his Saturday Night Live monologue:

A nice sentiment, but likely to fall on deaf ears. And Dave needs to save some “good luck” wishes for the American people who will be harmed by t-Rump’s policies, decrees, and whims.

OK, I’ve had my say. You know where I stand. As best as I can over the next four years, I’m going to try to not give any more oxygen to the dumpster fire. Lil’ Donny the broken boy needs a steady stream of attention, and I don’t want to contribute. I’d rather focus my attention on things that I can change.

Don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone.

From the New York Times earlier this month:

Notice the dateline: January 5th. Two months after the election, when reporting like this two months before the election might’ve made a difference. And almost four years to the date of the insurrection, the biggest challenge yet to our democracy.

Grandpa Joe inherited a total cluster, and managed to right the ship.

Now the most aggrieved man-child in history takes the reins, full of bluster and b.s., hellbent on revenge, caring for no one other than himself, looking to turn the U.S. government into shills, lackeys and toadies, and making bullying, corruption and extortion great again.

January 6th, 2021 WAS the biggest challenge yet to our democracy. Until today at noon.

“Donald Trump and the cynics want us to believe that he is all-powerful, and that if you fight back you will lose. he wants you to believe that if you fight back you may face danger. and he wants you to believe that it won’t matter, because he is in control of everything — and it is not true. it is time for us to build not a resistance but an opposition — something that is durable, something that will last for four years, and beyond. and we need to build that opposition now, and we need to all gird ourselves for the long run.”


Elizabeth Willing Powel’s question to Ben Franklin at the end of the Constitutional Convention in September of 1787: “Well, Doctor, what have we got, a republic or a monarchy?”

Ben Franklin: “A republic, if you can keep it.”

It’s our country. It’s up to us to keep it. It’s not gonna happen in Washington, but it can happen at home.

We didn’t act then. Will we now?

“Nobody can embargo sunlight. No cartel controls the sun. Its energy will not run out. It will not pollute the air. It will not poison our waters. It’s free from stench and smog. The sun’s power needs only to be collected, stored, and used.”

— President Jimmy Carter, May 3, 1978

L.A. is burning up.

Southern California has been experiencing a protracted dry spell. the rainy season, which generally starts in November, has yet to arrive — since May, just 0.16 inches of rain has fallen in Downtown Los Angeles. Additionally, LA experienced an unusually hot summer.

Droughts, hurricanes, and floods are more extreme.

“Drill, baby, drill” will only make it worse.

We squandered 46 years… we may not have another 46 to spare.